When couples consider divorce or separation, they often think that coping with legal procedures will be the most stressful aspect of the divorce process. However, we find that helping families manage their emotions can be one of the biggest challanges of divorce.
The majority of people going through divorce will be all too aware of the strength of their feelings: anger, hurt, stress, jealousy and sadness – all these feelings and more can be at the forefront of divorce. However, most divorcing couples tend to try to bury these feelings and simply cope with the more practical aspects of ending their marriage.
The ‘traditional’ divorce process is largely carried out in court with a judge taking control of decisions on any contentious issues whilst any emotions involved in the process are largely overlooked and not taken into account. When this happens it can be hugely damaging for all involved, resulting in a negative impact on any legal actions and any decisions that are made.
As collaborative family lawyers, we understand that what couples really need is support and enouragement to reach amicable decisions. It is important that both sides are allowed to express their feelings without hasty judgements being made; this usually means that practical solutions are reached without an increase in conflict.
Going through divorce forces couples to make huge decisions about their futures. The collaborative approach to divorce can guide couples towards making successful, long-lasting decisions that will have a positive impact on family relationships. Collaborative divorce involves couples meeting with eachother, accompanied by their lawyers in a safe and secure environment.
The collaborative approach encourage couples to talk about their fears and worries along with their plans for the future. Although divorce is always likely to be something that the majority of people would hope to avoid, the collaborative approach to divorce is committed to reaching amicable outcomes to benefit the whole family.